So, fine. Let's hear from the rest of you singles. Is my isolation from the family ward a singular experience (ha,ha)? Is the marginalization of single mormons merely a local cultural problem, or a more universal institutional one?
If you have a few minutes, and you are a single mormon, please answer the questions below in a comment.
If you think I am a whiney loser, who expects too much from church (like loving fellowship and inclusion), you may be right. Read the comments from other singles. You will either feel vindicated in your righteous judgement of me, or you might have your eyes opened to something which might be a real problem.
1. What is your age, sex and single status: never-married, divorced, widowed?
2. When was the last time you were asked to speak in church?
3. What is your current calling? How long have you had it?
4. What is the biggest calling you have ever had? How was it? AND, was this in a struggling branch/ward or a regular ward?
5. Are you a visiting or home teacher? (when was the last time you were?)
6. Do you have significant relationships with any members of your ward (real friendships)?
7. What is your favorite part of church?
8. What part of church do you wish would change? How would you change it?
9. In general, do you feel accepted and loved by others at church, or do you feel like an outsider?
10. For those of us who aren't as enlightened as you, what did you do to mitigate that outsider-feeling and make yourself more included?
11. Any relevant anecdotes you would like to share?
1. 31, female, never married;
2. I was last asked to speak 5 years ago when I moved into a branch in the city.
3. No calling. I haven't had one in 3 years, despite asking 4 bishops for one.
4. I was a counselor in the primary. I loved it. It was a struggling branch.
5. I haven't been a visiting teacher since I was in a singles ward 6 years ago.
6. No friends. I tired making friends in the ward in Florida, but no one was interested.
7. I like singing the songs.
8. See post below for what I would change.
9. I do not feel included
10. I'm not enlightened.
Feel free to skip any questions. Thank you for your time and input! Can't wait to see the answers. I hope it is my fault that I find church so unpleasant, because it's a lot easier to change myself than the whole church.