tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6679355.post1216296575244324549..comments2023-10-31T09:56:21.108-04:00Comments on Celibate in the City: Back to church, with a broken heart, againUnknownnoreply@blogger.comBlogger14125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6679355.post-77332290131996392022007-11-13T15:05:00.000-05:002007-11-13T15:05:00.000-05:00Yay! I'm so happy that you made your bishop cry! ...Yay! I'm so happy that you made your bishop cry! <BR/>That means that his soul and his heart were opened to hear what you had to say... and understand. He recognized FINALLY the need.<BR/><BR/>And as others said... it's so good you've been blogging about it because that gave you the right words at the right time. <BR/>What a blessing! <BR/>YOU are a blessing now to other singles. <BR/>Yay!TRShttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09801686710086039781noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6679355.post-51138379403520728682007-10-17T02:18:00.000-04:002007-10-17T02:18:00.000-04:00JL--OK, I DEFINITELY feel this pain. I know that ...JL--<BR/><BR/>OK, I DEFINITELY feel this pain. I know that after my first several years in the Church I started dating outside again and fell away, before getting scared straight by a bad relationship. I'm in a YSA ward, and I still feel that our needs aren't being addressed properly all the time. You're right, it's difficult in a church of families to relate to the singles.<BR/><BR/>I think, Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6679355.post-71440177463260645462007-10-15T18:44:00.000-04:002007-10-15T18:44:00.000-04:00Kathleen,They don't have any idea. How could they?...Kathleen,<BR/><BR/>They don't have any idea. How could they? I think some of that is our fault, obviously, not enough of us, if any at all have been speaking up. We've been made to feel like such pariah's, that the moxie is drained out of us. We feel the church leaders either don't care or live on some other planet and practically speak another language. I guess the only way to fix this, is toJ.J.https://www.blogger.com/profile/10190264901665391679noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6679355.post-72996918460531445952007-10-14T17:49:00.000-04:002007-10-14T17:49:00.000-04:00JL, I'm glad you took the initiative to actually t...JL, I'm glad you took the initiative to actually talk to your bishop. I was sitting with my bishop on the train the other day, and I was expressing to him how difficult I would find it to be were I in his shoes. I only know maybe 20 percent of the people in the ward, and as bishop I would feel the need to try to know everyone, and to me that would be just overwhelming.<BR/><BR/>There's no senseAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6679355.post-72813086095527134512007-10-13T03:40:00.000-04:002007-10-13T03:40:00.000-04:00*hugs* You captured the feelings of loneliness th...*hugs* You captured the feelings of loneliness that I tried and failed to convey to my family recently when I explained to them that I was not going to continue to force myself to go to church once I get "kicked out" of my ysa branch in a few years. My parents chalked up my feelings of unhappiness in the church to "you must not have enough of a testimony" and insisted there was a place for Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6679355.post-58121123542033592242007-10-12T12:54:00.000-04:002007-10-12T12:54:00.000-04:00Brava JL! You are a mover and a shaker. Sometimes ...Brava JL! You are a mover and a shaker. Sometimes i think that our strong emotions and the capacity to feel them, abide them, and then have them be so unbearable that SOMETHING must be done, is a very effective way to create change in the world. or that's what i tell my latina self when i seem to be leaps and bounds more emotional than my comrades.GrittyPrettyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17303584645383006594noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6679355.post-27828384577218563682007-10-10T21:12:00.000-04:002007-10-10T21:12:00.000-04:00Arbee,One thing I have learned in the devastation ...Arbee,<BR/><BR/>One thing I have learned in the devastation I've been through the last two years, is that when you have lost everything, you no longer have anything to fear. It was not an act of bravery on my part, the only thing I that scared me was my own desperation. I NEEDED HIS HELP! And it helped me that I was prepared, by blogging about this subject, I already had a list in my head of JLhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10769264710411660303noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6679355.post-67671418221755090462007-10-10T19:30:00.000-04:002007-10-10T19:30:00.000-04:00nf - my "name" has nothing to do with Arby's, it's...nf - my "name" has nothing to do with Arby's, it's just my initials spelled out RB = arbee<BR/><BR/>my blog is www.ar-bees.blogspot.comarbeehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04376873923342391534noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6679355.post-89502694557107355122007-10-10T12:22:00.000-04:002007-10-10T12:22:00.000-04:00Arbee: I love your name so much that I was going ...Arbee: I love your name so much that I was going to read your blog, but I see that it's not public. So, taking up space on JL's blog (sorry!) I wanted to tell you that your nickname RULES! (Is it based on Arby's?) ;)N.F.https://www.blogger.com/profile/15769369890212116831noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6679355.post-59323232265141058382007-10-09T21:57:00.000-04:002007-10-09T21:57:00.000-04:00I also respectfully disagree with triskit. I thin...I also respectfully disagree with triskit. I think it's awesome that you reached out for help and your bishop was willing to listen. Also, that you were brave enough to express your needs. (I'm a 31+ single adult - FYI)<BR/><BR/>Sometimes I feel really lonely at church also, but other times everything's just fine. I guess it depends on my frame of mind, or probably a little bit about the arbeehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04376873923342391534noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6679355.post-80126385712973236692007-10-09T01:19:00.000-04:002007-10-09T01:19:00.000-04:00JL,Keep your head up. Get up. ...and stand up!cv...JL,<BR/><BR/>Keep your head up. Get up. ...and stand up!<BR/><BR/>cvbcvbhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06498907587799367996noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6679355.post-39833455619926406592007-10-09T01:07:00.000-04:002007-10-09T01:07:00.000-04:00I respectfully disagree with triskit. I am so flo...I respectfully disagree with triskit. I am so floored and proud of you (can I be proud of you w/out knowing you?) for asking for help and talking w/the Bishop and telling him what you need. I think you are amazing. More people need to do what you did. Your Bishop isn't perfect-no one is. But, to me, the church is still true-people aren't. Congrats to you for your accomplishment of getting N.F.https://www.blogger.com/profile/15769369890212116831noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6679355.post-20315930628627178382007-10-09T00:08:00.000-04:002007-10-09T00:08:00.000-04:00Or masochistic. Can never keep 'em straight.Or masochistic. <BR/><BR/>Can never keep 'em straight.Triskithttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09891349126095171911noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6679355.post-35943436232777032892007-10-09T00:07:00.000-04:002007-10-09T00:07:00.000-04:00If the church were a person, I'd tell you you're i...If the church were a person, I'd tell you you're in an abusive relationship. To keep going back to something that brings such pain to your life; to articulate your needs over and over and over and never have them met; to be so....stunted. It's sadistic.Triskithttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09891349126095171911noreply@blogger.com